Stop running away from your problems.
The tarot card of the day is the reversed Queen of Cups.
The Queen of Cups is a woman who is emotionally in touch with herself and others. Although she can be very moody, people love her because she is caring and sympathetic.
However, when this card appears reversed, it suggests you are trying to avoid your problems instead of facing them head-on.
Perhaps you have a high-stress job. Maybe you’re a lawyer who works long hours and takes on too many cases. Or you are struggling with bank loans. Or you are a stay-at-home mom who never has a moment to herself.
Whatever the case may be, you are running away to avoid a painful situation.
Sometimes, you try to rationalize it away: "My job as a defense lawyer is essential." Or perhaps, "My kids are only young once. Everything will be fine if I put in more effort and be a better mother."
The Queen sees all. She sees the pain you are in and asks you to stop running away from it. It is time to face it.
Start by Being Honest with Yourself
Every time your heart aches a little, you try to distract yourself. First, you watch TV or go out with friends. Then you work more hours and spend money on unnecessary things as if you are not struggling with loans.
But are you going to keep running and running? Eventually, you will have to face what is causing you pain.
Here comes the most challenging part: you must be emotionally honest. Embrace your sadness when it arises. If you're angry, let yourself be angry. Your feelings are valid.
Are you ashamed of your feelings because you fear judgment from others? You must understand that only you have power over how you feel.
Meanwhile, your siblings, friends, colleagues, and people who love you just want to see you smile and be genuinely happy. So they will support you through whatever you are going through – bad grades, traumatic breakups, crushing loans – anything.
Manage Your Emotions
The Queen of Cups reversed can also suggest that you struggle to manage your emotions.
For example, perhaps being a lawyer or being involved in legal matters makes you think you must be stoic and unemotional. Or being the first-born child means you are not allowed to act like your younger siblings.
No matter the reason, you are building a barrier between yourself and your true feelings.
It is important to understand that emotions are neither good nor bad. They just are. You are not in control of how you feel, but you are in charge of how you communicate your feelings.
When you bottle up your emotions, they tend to come out in unhealthy ways, such as yelling at your loved ones, lashing out in anger, or binge eating.
If it's difficult for you to control your emotions, you must reach out for help. Don't be ashamed to get professional help from a therapist or counselor. In time, you will find it easier to manage your emotions.
Find Healthy Coping Skills
Once you start being honest with yourself, it is time to start finding healthy ways to cope with your emotions.
Some people find it helpful to work in their garden, others like to go for walks or run. Other people find relief in yoga or meditation. Still others feel comfortable talking to a trusted colleague or therapist.
Find what works best for you by trying a variety of things.
Coping with your emotions is a process. The Queen of Cups reversed suggests that you may feel like you are struggling on your own, especially if you are raised in a family where emotions are not expressed.
Perhaps you don't even know what healthy coping skills look like. That is okay.
There are people who care about you and want to help. Start small and be patient with yourself. The Queen of Cups believes in you, and she knows you are worth it.
Spend some time journaling about your emotions. Let out all your feelings and write them down. This will help you start being honest with yourself and managing your feelings healthily. Your time of running away is over.